This article covers some recent family happenings and the subsequent deeper thought and reflection I’ve had.
I have a younger brother, Alexander. He’s a great kid. Well, he’s 24 years old so I should no longer refer to him as a “kid” (nah, he’s still a kid hehe).
We’ve always been close. We share humble beginnings and both have driven and ambitious spirits. Alex is a Nuclear Engineer in the Navy (bright guy) and he’s recently returned from his first deployment.
But things aren’t all hunky-dory. He received the dreaded “Dear John” letter (err… email).
So, he’s devastated.
He’s had trouble eating, drinking, sleeping…you name it. But our family has come together to support him. In fact, several of have already flown (or driven) to visit him as a show of support.
We only wish we saw him on better terms.
Marriage and military
Alex married months before his 20th birthday. I consider that too young for marriage; maybe you don’t. But I also thought it was a bold move to make for he and his girlfriend of only 1 year. Especially knowing the Navy would have him relocate several times during the upcoming years.
That’s hard. I don’t know how military families manage. It’s such a challenge with the adapting and strength involved. I commend you if you’re (happily and functionally) in a military family who is subject to moving often and time spent away from deployed family members.
It makes me think about the decisions we make which have such lasting effects. Decisions that will result in substantial emotional, physical, and financial investment.
We have to weigh our options carefully. We have to enjoy life in the present but always have an eye on the future.
With any luck, all is well with you and your family.
Nobody is perfect. Life takes some unexpected twists and turns. Sadly, divorce isn’t even the “worst of the worst” news these days. It’s fairly commonplace.
I wish it wasn’t so common.
I wish we valued relationships, commitments, marriage and each other more.
One day things may turn around for us (as a race). Or perhaps we’ll just continue to spiral downward. Who knows.
All I can say, is remain strong through your times of trouble.
Pray. Rest. Go for a drive to clear your mind. Whatever works for you, just know that you aren’t alone.
We’re all on this big rock together. We have family and friends to lean on and in times like these, trust me, it’s amazing how much a few kind words can impact another person.
Through Alex’s experience, he and I have become closer. We’ve opened up and shared more in the past month than we have in the trailing 10 years. There are plenty of negative angles to focus on here but I choose to look at this as a positive experience.
Count your blessings.
Be there for others.
Weigh your options and decisions with care.
Smile and give thanks for this moment we’re sharing right now