How To Get What You Want In Life (and in Business)

Image of Dice - Get What You Want in LifePeople are funny.  Most of us dream of being happy, fit, and rich.  But do most of us do more than wish?  How many of us are truly “willing?”

Willing to make the necessary sacrifices.

Willing to leave the person or source of our unhappiness behind.

Willing to carve out 20 or 30 minutes from our busy days to exercise to become fit and feel better about ourselves.

Willing to explore (legal) ways of earning money outside of our day jobs.

Not many of us take action steps beyond wishing.  But if you don’t take that first step toward your goal you have no prayer of achieving anything.

Here’s a look at your 3 step process to getting what you want from life and business…

1. Find your true motivation

What is it that you truly want? Now ask yourself, “why?”  Then keep drilling down with “why” until you reach the core sentiment; that raw heap of emotional or psychological attachment compelling you to wish for whatever it is you’re wishing.

“I wish I made more money.”


Or, “I wish I was in better shape.”


Answer your “whys” honestly and keep asking them.  How many “whys” should you ask?  As many as it takes until you reach that Neo moment from The Matrix and say, “whoa.”  That’s when you’re onto something.

2. Map it

How will you obtain what you want?  Can you break it down to dummy-proof steps or daily tasks?  Will your journey require a lifestyle redesign or making more lists to get things done?

You should also identify people that are in a position to help you on your quest or, better yet, how can you help others in their quests along your way?  (You’ll reap massive rewards here).

Do you know anyone that is the person you want to be or has the things you want?  Have you picked their brain or are you letting that golden opportunity pass you by?  If you talk to someone who has “been there, done that” you can learn to avoid potential snags along your journey.  That’s working smarter not harder.

3. Persevere

To get what you want in life you have to do more than wish or ask.  You can have anything you want but you’ll have to commit to an action plan.  Then you need to take those action steps toward your goal(s) each and every day.

It doesn’t matter that you’re tired.  It doesn’t matter that your favorite TV show is on; if it doesn’t serve your end game then be willing to push it aside.

No matter how many times you fall down, fail, flop, or get ridiculed for your dreams you will keep going.  That’s all there is to it.  You’ll just keep stalking-down your dreams like a Terminator; sent from your future to the present to kick yourself in the ass.

Surround yourself with people that already “have.” Invite like-minded people along with you on your journey. The idea is to create an environment that helps align you with your goals.  Do your best to shake off the people that shoot down your ideas, especially if they rarely accomplish or set goals of their own.

It isn’t easy to make sweeping changes but it’ll feel amazing when you’ve progressed.

Invest a few minutes now asking yourself a few “whys” to discover your wants.  Continue to ask “why” to each answer until you’ve drilled down to the root of what you truly want.  Then be willing and excited to continue on the wild ride ahead.

I know that I’m enjoying the ride.

Care to join me?

Photo: fyuryu

9 Responses to How To Get What You Want In Life (and in Business)
  1. Pete Carr
    February 1, 2011 | 4:01 am

    Hi John,
    It makes a massive difference surrounding yourself with like minded people. This was one of the first things I learned.
    Surround yourself with losers, you will soon become one.

    • Jon
      February 3, 2011 | 9:56 pm

      I should look up some of those studies they’ve done suggesting we become the average of the five (if memory serves me, five) people with whom we share the most time.

      Agreed, Pete. The wrong company will drag you down. An interesting proverb went something like, “If you lie down with dogs you get up with fleas.”

  2. Tristan
    February 2, 2011 | 2:13 am

    I think that surrounding yourself with like-minded people is much easier said than done. While it’s easy to connect with these kinds of people online, I’ve found it hard to “surround myself” with these kinds of people in real life simply because I haven’t found too many! Have you found that to be the case?

    • Jon
      February 3, 2011 | 9:48 pm

      Thanks for stopping by, Tristan! Yes, I agree it’s not easy in the physical realm. It’s been an interesting journey trying to meet people that are driven and persevere (they’re typically plugged into organized groups searching for similar people haha).

      It’s also required me to trim some of my “social fat” and reassess the company I keep. When I find “my people” I work to earn a foot in the door to their network if one exists.

      In some cases I’m betting we, as the ambitious, find we flip the switch within others helping unleash their inner drive. For most it’s a temporary high; in other cases I’ve joint ventured with these folks, remained friends, and watched them launch their own businesses (off and online).

  3. Sarah Russell
    February 3, 2011 | 10:22 pm

    On perseverance, I really love this quote I got from a blogger I used to follow:

    “It is both my responsibility and my privilege to spend every possible hour of every day sweating blood to make my dreams come true.”

    Basically, I don’t want to look back in 10 years and be pissed as hell about what I could have accomplished if I had given my business the time and attention it deserves :)

    • Jon
      March 24, 2011 | 7:10 pm

      That is a powerful message. To sweat and bleed for your dreams is the level of commitment that shows you’re committed no matter what may come your way. Looking back wishing we did things differently? Heck no! Let’s sweat and toil now so we can look back on these days and smile knowing we gave or absolute best.

      Thanks, Sarah.

  4. Christina Crowe
    March 24, 2011 | 2:27 pm

    Wow, Jon. I’m impressed!

    All three tips resonate well with me, and I especially like your advice to ask myself the question, “Why?”

    So for the next 5-10 minutes, I’m going to do this exercise (on paper) to see what I come up with. ;)

    Thanks for the actionable advice! This article deserves a tweet from me. :)


    • Jon
      March 24, 2011 | 7:07 pm


      Hi there, thanks for applying what I suggested! It’s an interesting little exercise that teaches you a lot about your true motivations and your level of commitment to a goal (or a desire). Thanks so much for sharing the article, I appreciate you!

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